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InZanadee
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 17:18 · Edited by: InZanadee


IM means intended mother
IP means intended parents
DH means dear husband
DD means dear daughter
(now you can read on)

Hello all,
As I told you, I delivered little Jeremy Sunday, Feb. 8th, at 12:19pm. We decided to go ahead with the c-section because my blood pressure was up and my hands, feet, and legs were swollen. I asked them to run the blood test for preeclampsia (yes, I was playing doctor again). Although we didn't get the results until after the surgery...I was borderline for preeclampsia.
Jeremy weighed in at a whopping 9lbs. 1oz., and was 19 inches long! WOW! How all that baby fit inside of this 4'11'' tall surrogate is beyond any of us! LOL! Even the anesthesiologist was in awe.
My surgery went really well...as far as surgeries go. It took longer than I expected it to, but was not too uncomfortable. My IM was with me for the whole thing, stroking my head, making light conversation, and thanking me over and over again. When it was time for him to come out, they told her she could stand up and watch it. Watching her face made everything worth while. For the first time since I've known her, she was utterly speechless! Jeremy was not even totally out when he started screaming. What a treat to hear him! Both of my IPs and my dh were allowed to sit with me in the recovery room for the entire time. As soon as I felt up to it, they handed the little man over to me to hold. I have to say...I bake some beautiful babies.
Once up in my room, my IPs were able to get a room two doors down from mine so they could stay with the baby in the hospital. My IM made the decision that they would try to have Jeremy discharged when I got to go home so we could all "leave as a family." I have to say, this small gesture on her part made a WORLD of difference to me. I was not looking forward to being alone in the hospital after he left. He could have gone home after two days, but they stayed the additional two days with me. It actually became something of a pajama party, with us padding between one another's rooms to see the baby. I got to know my IPs a little better...and a steady parade of their friends were there to meet me and thank me for all I have done. I usually don't respond well to praise(I'm actually pretty shy), but I don't mind admitting, it was truly satisfying to have all these people be so positive and so grateful. I got to spend a lot of time with Jeremy, giving my IM some hints on baby care (wow, I had advice she WANTED to hear!) and just cuddling him. Gosh, he's a cutie...and so laid back. Of course, he is keeping his schedule from the inside. I have to giggle whenever she complains he is up all night just wiggling around and as soon as the sun comes up, he's dead asleep. Tee hee! Tell me about it! Hours and hours of time spent NOT sleeping cause he was beating the heck out of my belly button...no kidding he's up all night!
Well, we all left the hospital on Thursday evening, together, as a family, as she promised. I have to say, I arrived in the recovery room ready to do this again. I know...I'm nuts. But it was TRULY satisfying. Even if my delivery was not totally on my terms. I know now it was best I did the section...first of all because of the potential for further developing preeclampsia, second his size. And really, so far, my recovery has been pretty good. Much better than with my own daughter. Perhaps because I did not labor before hand. (Oh, and my cervix still had not changed at all. It really WAS Ft. Knox in there.)
All in all, the whole birth experience has been pretty good. My IM took really good care of me in the hospital, and has been calling every day to see how I am doing. I've been really pleased with the turn around in their attitudes. Don't get me wrong, they are still pretty clueless...but at least they are trying.
Thanks again to all of you for your support and advice along the way. I am truly grateful for it.
So, when can I start this again???

"Spotless" Sandee


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spydergirl4594
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 19:36


aww Sandee im so glad to hear your spotless and feeling well! Congrats baby baker!


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splishiesplashie
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 20:05 · Edited by: splishiesplashie


thats so very nice to hear!!! hehe the whole thing sounded like it went pretty well... i guess not everything in life is meant to go according to our plan.

as for being clueless... i gave it some thought... and they really arn't any different than normal selfish first time parents... heh (i would know that syndrome)... they have a certian idea in mind of what they think they want and what it will be like... little do they know... babys got another plan... soon enuf Jeremy will mold them they way he needs them to be and get them wrapped all around his little baby finger. They are late bloomers because they... sorta... in a way... missed out on the pregnancy thing and how much JUST the pregnancy changes your life and molds you in incredible ways... and gets you ready for the baby...

trying really is the first step... and its over half the battle when they do



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InZanadee
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 21:21


Amber, I agree completely! It's sorta cute to see these two going through "New-Parent Syndrome." The fears, the uncertainty...all the good stuff! The day they went home they didn't put him in an out fit, they just wrapped him up in a bunch of blankets and took him out that way...because he'd been circumcised the day before and she was afraid the clothing would press to hard against his sore parts. LOL!
So, I agree, they are no more clueless than most as first timers. What I was referring to was how they interact with me. After 2 1/2 years, they still don't know how to talk to me, really. Oh, well. I accomplished what I set out to do, which was to help them to be a family, and that is something to be damn proud of.
Amber, how is your little girlie doing? I have been keeping her in my thoughts and hoping she's well. How are YOU recovering from being split in two? I'm just now beginning to feel a little better. Emotionally I am a little raw, but that is to be expected. Hooray for happy drugs!

Spotless in Chicago,
Sandee


I don't suffer from mental illness, I enjoy every minute of it!
splishiesplashie
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 22:09


hehe Gracie is doing well... everyone is amaized at how fast she catches on to things and many of the nurses and drs who come in contact with her rave about how smart she is (its her mom that needs to get a clue now)

SHE'S COMIN HOME ON MONDAY!!!

im beyond excited you can't imagine! shes like 4 weeks ahead of her "estimated" home time... guess she missed me as much as i missed her lol.

being split in two however... the first couple of days after were really hard and they were quite worried about my heart and how slowly i was progressing, but after i got up and out of the hossy every day was like 1000 times better than the one before... till now... and no one would ever be able to guess i had surgery or even had a baby for that matter... kinda sad... i miss my bump...

that was too cute in jeremy's mom's reasoning for wraping him up! made me smile!

hows the post partum stuff goin for you?


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InZanadee
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# Posted: 20 Feb 2004 22:38



Amber!!! That is WONDERFUL news!!! I am so excited for you that she is coming home so early! She MUST be a little fighter, just like her Mama. I know what ya mean about missing your bump...my bump was humongous, and just two weeks later you'd never know I'd just had a baby. (Yay me!) But it's weird being able to see my feet again! Post partum stuff is going...I'm hitting the major hormonal shift the last few days. I started back on my happy drugs about a week before he was born, so I am anticipating this will pass soon, but in the mean time, as I said, I am a bit raw. I don't miss the baby. Weird as that sounds, it's true. Even in the hospital, when I held him, it was like holding a friends baby...not one who had occupied my guts for 39 weeks. I can't really explain it. There is some part of me that is appalled I can feel this way...but the other part of me is utterly relieved. Missing him would be very very bad. For all involved.
I'm hoping to get to visit him this weekend, though. We'll see what's on the agenda.
How many weeks were you when Grace was born? btw I can't quite remember. (I'm not pregnant any more, but I'm still a blonde)
Anyway...I am sooooooooooo glad she is coming home to you! Now is when the FUN starts!



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becki
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# Posted: 21 Feb 2004 16:51


Congrats Sandee!!! So glad to hear things went as well as they did!! Thanks for the update, we were all wondering about you!!
Amber........YYYAAAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!!! I'm so happy Gracie is coming home. Maybe you should have neamed her Miracle as she is definitely proving to be a wonderous accomplisher!!! I'm so happy for her!!! Be sure she gets bunches of hugs and kisses from Aunt Beck - all these new frogger baby nieces - I feel so blessed!!
Both of you take care!
Becki

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# Posted: 21 Feb 2004 17:01


Sandee, it's absolutely wonderful that the delivery went so well. I was really worried about what *could* have happened, and I'm just glad the whole tone of things relaxed and a hugely positive experience came out of this.

I hope you feel better and I wish everyone the best of luck. And I think it's very good for you that you don't miss the baby in that way so much--sometimes your body doesn't let you miss things like that for good reason. You're crazy for wanting this again, but, you sure are a great person for it


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